My The Real Me post was the one that I submitted to get comments on. I got a whopping 86 comments on that post, I was ecstatic! Thank you to anyone who left a comment; I took most of them to heart and appreciated the kinds words. I went through and read all 86 comments. Most of them were very supportive! Many of you told me that you knew where I was coming from and that you were a lot like me, others offered to be my friend, while some assured me that God loves me, and then some just left "nice post" as their comment. Really, people? If you can't leave a thoughtful comment then don't bother leaving one at all!
I wish I could respond to all 86 comments individually, but I actually have a life outside of the blogging world, lol. Soo, I went through and picked out some of my favorites and ones that I just really felt that I needed to respond to.
I think you're brave to admit publicly, on the interwebz and all, some of the things that many of us think in our heads but never verbalize.
For me, I find that I have different layers, some people don't get all of the layers.
One thing that I believe though is the whole people come and go from your life for a reason, it is kind of cheesy but it's true. I try not to begrudge those that have moved on, because we're just headed in different directions.
I often get thought of as a bitch, because I'm not super friendly all the time, and while I can be a bitch, it's usually just because I don't ever want to push my way into a conversation uninvited, so I'm usually waiting to see if they want to engage.
Wow, I thought I was the only one who did this. If I see a friend but they are talking to someone else, I will just stand back and wait until one of them walks away because I don't want to be rude, even though other people do it all the time!
Amanda @ Ninth Street Notions said...
Good friends are hard to find. But just because someone disappoints us a time or two doesn't mean they aren't a good friend. I'm sure all of us can think of times where we've disappointed others.
Right, I know that no one is perfect and I'm certainly not. But after sooo many disappointments, you get tired of just looking the other way. I think after so long, you become resentful.
Angi said...Ha! I LOVE to just sit and watch people. We all live and act so differently, I love to sit and watch how strangers act. It's like a real life reality show but they don't realize that I'm watching them.
Besides my husband, my mom, and my two boys, I have no close friends. The few I have had over the years follow a different path than the one I choose so we part ways.
And I'm not huge on talking to strangers either. But I seriously love people watching. It's my favorite past time. People are crazy!
RuralMama said...I have quite a few friends (and a husband at one time) just like you. They would not get help for their depression because they thought they didn't need it or they didn't want to depend on a chemical. I tried explaining to them what a difference it can make in their life but do they listen? Nope. Sometimes our brains lack certain chemicals that the body needs. I much prefer taking a pill every day over hating myself and my life and being miserable.
Thank you for being REAL! I've had some of the same issues you have and just this past year got the help I needed, mostly because of my pride. I was too proud to be on antidepressants, I was too proud to admit I wasn't happy (for no good reason), I was too proud to admit I couldn't fix everything my way, I was too proud to let go of the "control" I thought I had over my life. I have to say, life makes a lot more sense now and I am happy and content. I've always loved my husband and my girls, I just appreciate them and the little things a lot more and tend not to "invent" things in my head (like you mentioned as well)
Thanks again for the wonderful post!
Cambria said...Sometimes though, we give but don't receive the same in return. When only one person does all of the giving, you have to give up after awhile.
Life can be so rough at times, but it sounds like you've overcome a lot of it, which is awesome! Congrats on learning to talk to others and graduating from college! It's hard to find loyal people, I guess we can only expect from others as much as we are going to give. Good luck to finding a new best friend!
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