How Dare She??

I am soo angry right now!! Let me back track a little bit here. A few weeks ago, our daughter lost her library book. She only half-ass looked for it. She is very lazy, she never wants to do anything unless it is of some sort of benefit to HER. If we ask her to do anything, she gets an attitude about it or she will do it super slow. When she would "look" for her book, she would just kind of walk around and half look for it. She told us that she just wanted us to pay the $17 because she didn't want to look for the book. Then one day, her twin brother found it in the toy box.. the same place she said she had looked a bunch of times. So, she finally took the book back to school, but she still had a $1.70 late fee on it. I told her that she was going to have to earn the $1.70 since she didn't find the book and never really looked for it... and that she wouldn't be able to get any books from the library for a few weeks.

Last week, she told me that the teacher moved her behavior card to RED just because she forgot one of her homework reading books at home. (she's 7 for God's sake!)... which I was already pissed about but I waited for a note or a phone call or something because if their behavior card is on red, the teacher is supposed to at least send a note home about it, but we never received anything.

So, this weekend, she says that her teacher told her that if she didn't bring her library fee in, she was going to have to stay inside during recess every day. This morning, I wrote a nice note to the teacher (no, not being sarcastic, it really was a nice note because I don't like drama), just stating what my daughter had said and that I hoped this was just a misunderstanding because it is not right to punish HER for that (again, she's freaking 7!). .... A few minutes after the start of school, my phone rings; it's the teacher. She told me that yes she did tell my daughter that she would have to stay in. I told her that I did not think it was HER place to punish my daughter for that because WE are the parents and WE are handling it. I explained that we were making her earn the money, and I also told her how she refused to look for the book and told us she wanted us to just pay for the book because she didn't want to look for it..etc. . The teacher then went on to say how she is such a hard worker at school (my kids are always good at school), and "don't you feel that she needs books to work on her reading??". Umm, first of all, we have TONS of books at home for her to read, plus her brothers also bring library books home that she can read... PLUS she has reading homework every single night, so it's not like she isn't reading! She then went on to say that SHE would pay the $1.70 if it was too difficult for us! OMFG are u kidding me?? She was soo fucking condescending and rude.. acting as if we were horrible parents!! She said that she asked my daughter if they had a specific spot to put library books, and she said no.. and "they need to have a spot to put library books so they don't lose them"... They DOOOOO have a spot for library books!!!!! We have this little magazine holder thingy that is supposed to be for library books, but that doesn't mean the kids always put them there. I'm soo fucking pissed about how this teacher was acting towards me! I seriously wanna just go in there and fucking go off on her! I'm waiting to talk to my husband about it to see if we should call the principal about this or not. I was very upset at how she acted towards me and she made me feel like I was a bad parent. She only sees my daughter for a few hours a day, she doesn't know how she acts at home or what goes on and how dare she fucking judge me???

We just moved to this town about 6 months ago. It's a small close knit town where everyone seems to know everyone else. We feel like the outcasts sometimes and I don't want to cause a bunch of problems, but I am so fucking livid about how she just talked to me. She probably put me in a bad mood for the rest of the day.. ahh, but wait! Parent/teacher conferences are in a few weeks. mmwahahahahahaaaa!!